that sinking feeling.....

Ok, here's the deal.....

80-year-old MIL was no longer able to be on her own, so after a weeks stay in the hospital here, we took her to a Care Center 3 hours away, in a town where her sister lives. With hubby out of town all the time working and me here alone, not to mention a not-very-good relationship with her for 32+ years, the Care Center was the best option. She needs much more care than we could give her, also. Friday, April 13, was the day we took her there.

After 4 months, we find out yesterday, that she is not eligible for Arizona Long Term Care. So, her first 100 days, paid by Medicare----all except $124 a day, were up last month. I was told on 7-17, that as of June 1, she was approved for ALTCS. Yesterday, we were told she was denied, due to some VA benefits she may be entitiled to, and an almost 100-year-old POS property in Duncan that needs to be sold.
$500 a day since her first 100 will be paid by her *ours* private funds.........$26, 436 to date and it goes up by a minimum of $500 a day.......
Where does that kind of money come from??????
What do we do? Do we take her out of the facility and bring her here until we can get her onto the ALTCS? How long would that take?
Looks like our quality of life is in the crapper, just like hers................
I * AM * SICK